Exchange theory

Exchange theory

This theory states that people are motivated by self interest as no one wants to be in a relationship that punish or cost them but one that has benefits or rewards. In a relationship you have to learn to compromise. My husband will cook and do everything else in the house however when it comes to doing the dishes  and eating leftovers this is where we disagree however the benefits far outweighs the cost because at least he will help with other duties around the house.  

My cousin’s boyfriend oftentimes cheat on her however she doesn’t seem to care because at the end of the day she is getting a portion of his salary and her family is well taken care of. Although I might see that as a form of disrespect she is viewing the situation through a different lens. Persons are not going to readily give up on their relationship if they will be loosing someone or something of value.

This theory further suggests that humans are rational beings this is true however at times females especially make some irrational decisions because if you are being abused in a relationship and choose to stay because of religious or other reasons you deserve what you get. No matter how much the person say that they love, love doesn’t cause hurt or pain.  

This theory helps me to understand my relationship more and to appreciate my many blessings. In a relationship it is best to be fair and try to work things out and remember that you must treat persons the way that you would want to be treated.